Change is one of the most beautiful parts of life, but it is also one of the most terrifying. What is it about change that makes us so scared or hesitant to embrace opportunities to take those big leaps of faith?
The Fear that Nothing Will Ever Be the Same. We become comfortable. We are creatures of habit. Our alarm clocks go off at 6:30 Monday through Friday and we get out of bed and our same daily routine begins. We stop at Dunkin to get the same coffee, get on the same highway and get off at the same exit and then walk into the same office building. On the weekends we hangout with the same friends, doing the same things we have always done. Then Monday it starts all over again. Our life becomes a routine and we like that. It stabilizes us. What would happen if one day you just broke those routines? Would everything would change?
Our routines, the people who surround us, the food we eat, the places we live cause our fears of change. We are “happy” with what we do every day, we are “happy” with the people we spend our time with, we are “happy” with the lunch we eat every day, we are “happy” with where we live, but how do we know there isn’t a greater sense of happiness out there?
It’s when we choose to change those routines that the we begin to fear that nothing will ever be the same. Sometimes; however, that isn’t always a bad thing. Falling into those routines can really limit us from reaching our full potential, but how do you cope with that fear of nothing being the same?
For me, it is always the people I leave behind and the relationships I have built with those people that worries me the most. While I’m seeking change from my normal routines, what happens to the people I leave behind? Life doesn’t stop for them and it would be selfish for me to assume that their lives stay exactly the same while I’m gone. After all, we all need change. What eases me when I begin to worry is that the people I have in my life constantly support me in these endeavors of change, and if they don’t I don’t mind leaving them behind. When I come home for a visit or for the long-term they are there opening their arms to a new and changed me. Sure, things have happened, but our relationships either strengthen in the distance, or I realize maybe these aren’t the most supportive people in my life, and then comes more change.
Embrace it, it’s worth it. Face your fears of change. Accept it. Enjoy the challenge that change brings. When given the opportunity to change, take it, you never know where it might lead to. Maybe it could be a disaster and it all doesn’t work out quite like you had hoped, but you certainly learned something from it. You don’t ever want to wake up one day wishing you had taking that chance…regret is one of those “things” that will haunt you for too long, much longer than any fear you might have. An opportunity for change could be the best thing to ever happen to you, you could get your dream job, move to a new city and start a whole new journey leading to so many new opportunities (not writing from personal experience or anything).
Stop being so scared of change. The moment we stop being scared of change, and embrace it so many doors open for us, doors we may never even imagined for ourselves. If you had asked me 5 years ago when I graduated high school if I ever thought I’d be teaching 6th grade English Language Arts in Nashville, TN I would have laughed, but here I am, embarking on this new journey. Certainly, some things will never be the same, I will never be the same, but I can look back and say “Hey, I did it, I faced my fears” and my support system of family and friends that I left behind, will always be there fighting for me in my corner. So somethings will stay the same, even during this time of change.
Stay tuned for more on this journey of change, but for now mix it up a little, wake up a little earlier than your routine requires, order a different coffee and hangout with some new people! Change can start small!